Some things can’t be taught in words. They have to be felt.
At Soberman’s Estate, healing often happens in unexpected moments—and sometimes, it looks like a horse choosing to walk beside you.
During a recent equine-assisted coaching session, three of our clients were individually invited to create two spaces in the arena. One space represented their addiction: the chaos, pain, or past patterns that held them captive. The other space symbolized recovery: who they’re becoming, what they value, and how freedom feels.
Each man led a horse on a physical path from one space to the other—a journey that mirrored their emotional one.
But what made the session unforgettable were the unscripted moments.
One client was partnered with Harley, one of our gentle mini horses. As he walked, another horse—Angel—chose to follow them unprompted. This man paused, visibly emotional. Later, during reflection, he shared:
“I’ve been looking for community for the past ten years… and today the horses gave that to me.”
Another man chose to lead Angel—and Harley followed.
Again, the message was clear: you don’t have to walk this alone, it’s ok to ask for and accept help.
At the end of the session, one of the men said something that stayed with all of us:
“This is for real. Not to dismiss the group and individual sessions, but this is a real-time experience—and an incredible one.”
That’s the power of experiential recovery.
Here at Soberman’s Estate, we believe in healing the whole person. Traditional therapy, Holistic therapy, group work, and medical support are vital. But so are real-life, embodied experiences—where men reconnect with their inner strength, learn to trust themselves again, and begin to believe that recovery isn’t just possible, it’s happening.
Sometimes that belief begins when a horse chooses to walk beside you.