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If you clicked on this article, there is a fair chance that the answer is yes, and that is not a bad thing. It may seem overwhelming, uncertain, and scary, especially of what others may think. If the answer is yes, all that means is there is a disease that needs to be treated. It is normal to feel resistance to a new chapter, there is always uncertainty in change. In truth, you deserve a life with joy, contentment, and self-esteem. Recovering from this disease is the beginning of a better life for the rest of your life. Shame typically stands in the way of starting treatment, and at Soberman's Estate, we teach clients how to let shame go, along with other issues that stand between the client and a better life. 

It was the famed British psychoanalyst and pediatrician, Donald Winnicott MD who coined the term "false self" - a universal phenomenon that we all suffer from in a matter of degrees. To function in society we may have to say "please" when we are not pleased and "thank you" when we are not feeling any gratitude. This need to comply with social norms can go way beyond such niceties and can for instance suppress such basic human emotions as anger and sexual desire so that such expressions coming from the "true"self are unable to be processed, digested and made peace with.

Can mindfulness-based treatment modalities be more successful than psychotherapy to reduce comorbid opioid misuse and chronic pain? A recent (February 2022) clinical trial found that YES, it can.

This trial randomized 250 adults with comorbid opioid misuse and chronic pain. 45% of participants receiving mindfulness-oriented recovery training were no longer misusing opioids after 9 months of follow up. Only 24.4% of those who received group psychotherapy shared this success. In addition, those with mindfulness training also reported notable reduction in pain symptoms.

Mindfulness training included practices such as “meditation on breathing and body sensations to strengthen self-regulation of compulsive opioid use and to mitigate pain and opioid craving by reinterpreting these experiences... reframing maladaptive thoughts to decrease negative emotions, and engender meaning in life... and cultivating awareness on pleasurable events and sensations to amplify positive emotions and reward.”

Our article Mindfulness = Boredom + Curiosity goes further in depth about the essence of mindfulness.

Mindfulness is a key in becoming connected, aware, and empowered. Benefits of mindfulness are nearly endless, including decreased depression, increased emotional regulation, reduced anxiety and stress, better memory, cognitive improvements, stronger relationships, better physical health and more (very well mind).

Soberman’s Estate provides tools and strategies to cultivate mindfulness for clients. One of the most accessible tools is breathwork, however there are different physical experiences that help different individuals tap into and strengthen their mindfulness muscle. Some clients learn the most mindfulness during yoga, equine therapy, art therapy, mala bead meditations, labyrinth walks, nature hikes, journaling prompts, medicine wheel sessions, intentional cooking and eating, music therapy, or more. Soberman’s Estate provides all therapeutic modalities onsite, so clients may find what works for them to ignite their recovery journey. We are proud to teach men to live a better life for the rest of their lives. ™

Stress is Part of Life

What is self-esteem? 

Mastering the gut microbiome can be a challenging process and appears to be the new buzz word today both in the news and in health science. The gut microbiome is the collection of microbes and all of their genes residing in our digestive tract including bacteria, viruses, and fungi. Researchers are discovering more about the strong connection between the interactions of the bacteria in the body and a person’s overall health. Particularly, the gut and the brain. The brain and the gut communicate on a two-way street by sending signaling molecules to each other. These interactions can help to determine a person’s brain function and overall health.

Russell Brand, internationally successful, award-winning comedian, actor, author, and activist recently posted a video on Twitter celebrating 19 years of sobriety, and inspiring viewers with substance use disorders and their loved ones that there is hope.

The holiday season can be warm and joyful, it can also be challenging and stressful. If there is any anxiety around holiday events for you or your loved one, here are 12 tips to stay sober and enjoy your season! 

Each year, more than 10,000 people have lost their lives due to impaired driving in the US.  

If you are wondering whether you or a loved one has a substance use disorder, you are not alone, and it is a question worth pondering. About 261 Americans die every day from excessive alcohol use (CDC).