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By Mitch Prager | Founder, Soberman's Estate | Sobriety Date: May 25, 1998

When a man finally decides he is ready for help -- or when the people who love him finally get him to that point -- one of the most important and most rushed decisions is choosing where to go. The internet produces an overwhelming number of options. Every program sounds confident and comprehensive. Most families do not know what questions to ask.

By Mitch Prager | Founder, Soberman's Estate | Sobriety Date: May 25, 1998

By Mitch Prager | Founder, Soberman's Estate | Sobriety Date: May 25, 1998

By Mitch Prager | Founder, Soberman's Estate | Sobriety Date: May 25, 1998

By Mitch Prager | Founder, Soberman's Estate | Sobriety Date: May 25, 1998

If you are searching for these words, you already know something is wrong. Maybe you have tried to bring this up before and it went badly. Maybe you have been rehearsing the conversation in your head for months. Maybe you are afraid that saying the wrong thing will push him further away -- or give him one more excuse to dismiss the whole thing.

Just last night, I saw a friend who I had not seen in months, and he said, “I’m starting over, today is my first day sober” - he was sweating and nervous - I immediately highly recommended and strongly suggested he go to detox. He was scared and at the same time confident he could detox on his own. I shared with him that earlier this year, a wife of a recovering alcoholic called me and before she could finish her sentence, I said, hang up on me and call 911 – she was reporting she hadn’t seen her husband in several months as he was traveling internationally for business and he’s been home 3 days and she was so proud that he wasn’t drinking and she couldn’t understand why he was having a seizure, well he had a seizure as he quit cold turkey without going to detox and he suffered a seizure and nearly died.